💙 When There’s Love, But Intimacy Hurts

Intimacy Hurts

After childbirth, many women feel a shift they never expected.

The love is still there.
But something feels… off.

She may feel pain during intimacy.
She may feel disconnected from her own body.
She may feel distant from the person she loves — not because the love is gone, but because something inside her doesn’t feel the same anymore.


🩺 What Really Happens

No one told her that:

  • It might hurt to be touched.

  • She might feel tight, dry, or even afraid.

  • She might pull away when her partner reaches out — not because she doesn’t love him, but because she doesn’t feel safe in her own skin yet.

And then comes the guilt…

  • “Why can’t I just be normal again?”

  • “Why do I feel broken?”


🧾 Why This Happens

These feelings are not weakness.
They’re common — and treatable.

Possible reasons include:

  • Perineal trauma (tears, episiotomy, scar tissue)

  • Hormonal shifts (especially while breastfeeding)

  • Birth trauma, even in silent forms

  • Pelvic floor dysfunction

  • Or simply… pure exhaustion


💡 What Actually Helps

Pelvic Floor Physiotherapy – for comfort, confidence, and healing
Lubricants & moisturizers – small tools, big relief
Medical check-up – to rule out infections, scar pain, or hormonal dryness
Open communication – with no pressure or guilt
Time and Kindness – to her body, her heart, and her relationship

Because intimacy isn’t just about the body — it’s about feeling safe, seen, and held… even when you’re still healing.

You’re not broken. 🌿


🌸 Final Thought

You’re just finding your way back to yourself.
Take it one step at a time, with patience and care.


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